FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS 

Below are some questions that are often presented to me.  

 

I finally had the courage to schedule a session with you.  I am so nervous, some times I feel like I should cancel it.  What can I do to calm my nerves? 

    First of all, please try to relax.  There is nothing to be nervous about. Let me tell you about the first several minutes of our session.   The first time we meet, I will welcome you into my home, offer you something to drink and invite you to sit with me in my living room so that we can chat a bit before the actual session.  There will be nothing for you to be nervous about. During our chat,  we will discuss everything that will happen as well as all the reasons you decided to schedule the session.  You will be treated with great respect and honor, feelings that come from my heart.  

    Prior to coming to the session, try to find a half hour or so to relax and breathe deeply. Perhaps a nice warm shower would help and then sit or lie down and close your eyes and allow your whole body to just let go.  Before you know it you will be anticipating with excitement rather than apprehension.  It is perfectly natural to be turned on as well as nervous.  Whatever you feel - allow it - don't try to change it.   

 I have suffered from sexual dysfunction most of my life.  I know you have said that you can help me and that I will see a difference after the first session.  How can this be?   I  don't understand how you can address pre-mature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction (ED) issues in the first session when I have had the problem for so long.  Can you explain it further?

    The term sexual dysfunction is not a term that I use readily.  In the majority of those who suffer from supposed sexual dysfunction,  such as pre-mature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction,  there is a very simple misunderstanding of how our bodies work in relationship to breath and relaxation.  

    You will learn that orgasm and ejaculation are NOT the same thing.  You will learn that orgasm is your life force energy and that ejaculation is actually just one possible response to orgasmic energy.  Orgasm is a beautifully choreographed dance between relaxation, breath and loving intent that helps your body and soul harmonize with your beloved.  It is easy to do actually,  because you will not be learning something new.  Rather you will be  "remembering" what you already know.  You were born to be multi-orgasmic.  You were meant to be "turned on" all the time to varying degrees.  

I am not gay; why do I have same sex fantasies?   What is wrong with me?

    Whether you were born into a male or female physicality,  it is very normal and very honoring to want to experience what it would be like to touch, taste, and be intimate with your own gender.  I am not one to label.  I think that most of us are to some degree,  what I call gender-neutral.   We all wonder what it would be like to make love with self.  Those who reach beyond the fantasy into an honoring same gender experience are not necessarily gay or even bi-sexual.  

    So allow yourself to fantasize and explore to your heart's content.  Whatever you do, it is important to do so in honor, respect and loving intent.  

Is it true that women ejaculate when they are highly aroused?  

     Female ejaculation is a very misunderstood erotic phenomenon this is also very controversial.  Many experts in the field of human sexuality swear that it simply does not happen.  I am hear to tell you however that it does.   

    Women have the capacity to ejaculate to some degree or another.  Female ejaculate is often called Amrita or Nectar of the Goddess.  It's composition is very similar to the seminal fluid produced by her male counterpart without the swimmers.  There is no biological purpose for female ejaculation save an expression of deep and intimate letting go - sometimes with great joy and sometimes with deep sorrow.    

For an informative article about female ejaculation,  click here

Is there something wrong with me?  I sometimes feel like being in a one-on-one relationship is like being trapped.  I want a loving relationship with the man of my dreams, but I also know that there are many others out there, both men and women, with whom I relate and want to continue my relationship with.  Does that make me a slut?  I have checked out the "lifestyle" or swinging community and don't find that is a turn on.  It's boring for me in fact.  I feel like maybe I want to have my cake and eat it too!!  Please help me.    

 

No, there is nothing wrong with you at all.  What you describe you are feeling is a very newly recognized relationship paradigm that is called "polyamory."  In a nutshell it is about having more than one intimate relationship that may or may not be of a sexual nature.  May I direct you to a very insightful article on this very subject that I have posted in the Articles section of my site.  Click here to go directly to the article. 

 

Please explain to me the difference between your Sexological Bodywork essions and your Sensual Blending Sessions.  

I know it appears to be confusing. Sexological Bodywork is a structured and certified Erotic Bodywork modality that has defined processes as set forth by the Certification Program itself.  It addresses parts of the body that are currently out of bounds to bodywork modalities currently legally available in most states.  Thus far California is the only state that recognizes it as a valid and legal healing modality.  With Sexological Bodywork,  the focus is on the arousal, and maintaining that arousal for an extended time-frame; not on ejaculation.  In fact, ejaculation is not the outcome of the session.  As in the Taoist Traditions,  keeping you in a high state of arousal without the release is the healing benefit.   Sexological Bodywork is one-way touch - I do the touching; you do not touch me. I am clothed; you are nude.   Unless you suffer from premature ejaculation or unreliable erection issues, chronic pelvic pain or abuse issues, you might find it a very frustrating session.  Self Pleasuring Coaching is also a part of this modality.  To find out more about Sexological Bodywork and it's ethics and philosophy,  please visit www.sexologicalbodywork.com  

Sensual Blending on the other hand is a bodywork and energetic process designed by me which is an all -over experience that incorporates all of the Senses - touch, taste, sight, listening, smelling - as well as breath and relaxation into a slow crescendo.  It focuses on not only the turn on and high state of arousal as a part of the healing experience, but takes you into a state of bliss that is difficult to put into words.  It is a different experience in that both of us are nude and you experience touch from more of my skin than my fingers.  And you are also allowed to touch in return.  With Sensual Blending you feel orgasmic in your entire body and because it is a longer session – this feeling extends and intensifies. 

Candidly, Sexological Bodywork would be a session that I would recommend to someone who experiences severe Premature Ejaculation or who has been sexually abused and is afraid of sensual touch; or someone who is suffering from chronic pelvic pain, or panic attacks.  Or someone who cannot overcome the stigma around self pleasuring and needs knowledge coaching and encouragement about “that” part of his or her  body “down there”

Hope this explains what I mean.