We're All Polyamorous
by Janet Kira Lessin,
Everyone, including you, is polyamorous. We're all
poly because, at the most expanded level of our consciousness, there's only
one of us and we love all our aspects, the many people and creatures that
collectively comprise us. Loving oneness is our natural state. Polyamory's a
high spiritual path that connects us intimately with more aspects of ourselves
when we realize our Oneness with the All There Is, with Creator God(dess).
Separation and duality create a perceived separation from God, from Oneness,
from all the parts of Self. When we feel separate from Godmind, most of us
can't remember our wholeness, though we
each have holographic reflections of that wholeness within us, even as the
whole hologram ("God") has each of us within it. When we forget our
oneness with everything and everyone, we see some of our parts–other
people--as `Not Self' and not worthy of love. When we see others as not us we
distance ourselves from them, catalog and categorize as unworthy of our
attention, energy and lovemaking. But what we judge and evaluate the
worthiness of the apparent others which are actually the other parts of
ourselves. In actuality all are equal, loveable, worthy, desirable. Before we
see our lovers as expressions of ourselves, we get to play with them and
experience them as different than who we think we are. Then, when we connect
as lovers or friends, we realize we and they are each other in divine unity.
But we are each--though we may be
unconscious of it--the inclusive, interconnected beneficent whole as well as
the smaller person we think we are. Each of us is the totality-- loveable,
worthy of relating, sharing energy, and loving physically; we're all are part
of Self/God/Universal Mind. From this perspective we're all worthy in all
ways. We manifest divine mind when we mix, mingle, mate and co-create. Life
stagnates unless we imagine we are a self different from
selves we regard other people to be. When we distinguish our self from our
lovers, we can interact, exchange, flow, conflict, perturb ate and create a
reality, a drama--the passion play we call
life. Our passion play turns from tragedy to comedy when we realize it is we
and people we thought weren't us playing all parts in our movie. We co-create
my universe from the many people we regarded as not us.
What makes me feel as though I am in opposition to many when I am really one
with all? What makes me run from some parts of myself and make love with
others? Some of the people I feel in opposition
with are those who are angry, violent and warlike. I, the current self with
which I identify hates war-bringers and polluters, oil barons who suppress
free energy systems that honor the Earth. But
when I think of all that frightens, annoys, scares and disgusts me about this
world and the people who exhibit behaviors I don't like, I down-spiral,
experience an endless void and work myself into an
emotional downer. Yet, even those people who do things I do not like are just
like me, I am them. How, I ask myself, can I balance the inner and outer me,
the personal and global me? Sometimes I think I have no control over what
others do. But is that true? Am I and are you really hopeless victims doomed
to eternal slavery and Armageddon imposed upon us by unconscious, uncaring
dictators?
Polyamory can return us to wholeness. Polyamory resembles the oneness we feel
when we reunite with all parts of ourselves and feel unity with apparent
others and the totality of existence. When
we simultaneously hold awareness of our separateness and our unity, we dance
in all dimensions of being. We experience our multi-dimensional selves. This
unity consciousness is nearly impossible to
maintain, but it gets easier the more you experience it. I say accomplish it.
You may at first realize you can hold all dimensions of awareness at the same
time, but you need to practice living from
multi-dimentionality.
When you love polyamorously, you meet your reflection in many people and come
to love of them and therefore more of your selves than you ever thought
possible. You become ever more aware that love is endless, boundless and that
each is a part of the whole, a part of you and all are ONE. The challenge of
balancing egos and issues rewards you in personal evolution and awareness. The
rewards of poly-love devoted to your own growth and to the growth of those you
love far exceed the challenges of relating poly. Commit to the process, burn
your prejudices on the polyamorous pyre and a new you that emerges.
If not in a closed circle of poly lovers and are open to new partners, you
attract potential lovers who resonate voices in you, voices of your own you
don't fully appreciate yet. What you dislike in people you attract reflects
your own underdeveloped or disowned inner voices. If you incorporate these
apparently difficult aspects of your lovers and acknowledge that you too
similar, though
repressed aspects in the form of underdeveloped inner voices of your own, you
balance those voices. Learning to balance your inner voices makes you grow;
learning to balance your voices helps you center yourself and make more
informed choices. Whatever you overly admire in your lovers,
whatever you your lovers have that you lack, also indicates that they show you
your own
underdeveloped potentials. You, like they, also possess inner voices that can
manifest what you admire too much in them. You develop these voices in
yourself as a result of interacting with lovers who display what you admire.
You become more conscious, aware and integrated. Nothing in the human
condition is alien to any of us. Light and dark and all in between are all
parts of existence and parts of every self.
We get what we give. We experience. This dance with all the energies of
existence is Divine Play, Lila. Acknowledge ourselves as co-creators. God
Goddess is us. Take personal responsibility and take back our power,
re-establish our connection to Source and become more effective. Remember who
we are and pull in those who resonate more fully with us and our life mission,
our Oneness. creates Good for this planet. So set intentions. Be conscious and
aware of what you put out there. Everything comes round, comes back ten fold.
You deserve only the best, so put out what you want to get back. Think good
thoughts. Do good things no matter what else is being done out there. Be true
to yourself and know that in your highest self you are of God, Good, of the
light and pure love. In our poly pods we manifest realities where we can love,
enjoy and play more.
With our lovers, In our erotic connects, especially our orgasms together, we
heal each other's ancient personal, pastlife. We don't let anyone to hurt
themselves or us, but we help them fully express themselves as we witness
them. We encourage them express, breathe deeper, let it out, release
everything traumatic or negative that has ever happened. Let it finally come
out and let it go. They
scream, rage, cry, and thrash, but soon they express joy and weep as they move
from pain to bliss. We love them unconditionally. They and we forgive
ourselves.
Together in love pods we heal the past, present and future. The
planetary energy field shifts, realigns. We prepare the world for its
awakening. Deep expression, catharsis and reprogramming,
acceptance, love and tolerance in our pods will heal the planet. We accept
each of us as sexual. We began in tribe and we return full circle to loving
groups, families that know, adore and accept us
with all our uniquenesses. In pods we can heal all issues of lack,
abandonment, guilt, shame, jealousy for they are but part of the illusion
we're less than whole. We know our oneness and as ONE are
complete. Develop your intimate network of lovers, beloveds and
healers. We support you as you open to who you really are, the sexual being
you are, capable of huge love and loving more than one.
We love all we love. Love is. Now's the time to accept our feelings and find
avenues where we each can accept limitless love, love without artificial
boundaries. Total, complete, universal love.
Janet Kira Lessin is the Chief
Focalizer for the World Polyamory
Association, See www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com
